Tips to Choose Your Wedding Music

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Wedding music is a very important part of any event. Have you ever heard that music can help frame a moment, as well as instantly bring it back to memory? Just as you’ll likely choose a song that brings you emotions for your first dance, you should do the same for your whole wedding music selection.

Music sets the tone and the emotions, and can help you share a message with your guests, so picking the right one is key.

Venue Rules and SIAE License

First of all, follow any guidance and restrictions the celebrant and the venue may ask you to respect. Many venues have a music time limit, so keep it in mind when setting your wedding timing. Always check that the musicians’ time limit is the same, and double check any extra hour fees.

In Italy, to play music at any kind of private party, including wedding music, you have to obtain a compulsory license and pay the remuneration of authors’ rights, due to SIAE — Italian Society of Authors and Publishers. It is pretty easy and can be done online; your wedding planner or professional musicians will also be able to help with that.

Choosing the Right Format: Band, DJ or Playlist

Whether you consider yourselves music people or not, music is a very important topic. Choosing an instrument rather than another, a jazz or Motown band, a DJ or a playlist can make a great difference in how your wedding experience will feel in the end. It also makes sense to consider the environment and check what type of wedding music works best for the space.

Whatever you choose, it is essential to see and hear the musicians play before you book them — always ask for a video or sample. If your budget allows, choosing a great band would be your best pick for the night: someone who is unforgettable, but not the star of the event.

If there are songs you’d like played perfectly, exactly as you hear them on records, then we would suggest going for a DJ, who will also make sure to set and keep the right mood all along.

Curating Your Music Selection

The music selection should speak a bit about you two as a couple and as individuals. Don’t be afraid to pick an unexpected genre if it suits you. If there are artists you both really love, a movie soundtrack you are connected to, or any tune that brings a special memory back, include them.

Try to avoid trendy music as much as possible. Trendy songs come and go, and often people get tired of them after one season. You want your wedding music to be evergreen.

Don’t assume your band or DJ is going to play every one of your favorites. Make sure you provide them with a list of songs you would like to hear, and songs you would never want played. You don’t need to specify why — telling them it’s a “no song” is enough.

It’s also very important to take time to think of the song meaning and carefully read the lyrics before picking anything for your ceremony or reception. Make sure the selection is telling the story and the feelings you want you and your guests to experience.

The Processional and Key Moments

You and your partner could decide to keep your processional songs private, and not share them with each other until the moment you walk down the aisle. The song should represent the way you feel about your relationship and your partner, or one that holds a very special memory for both.

We also highly suggest having the musicians play well before you enter the ceremony, in order to entertain your guests upon their arrival. It will also be a helpful signal to guests when it’s time to be seated or get quiet.

When you select your wedding music, make sure all the important moments are covered — and don’t forget the last dance and cake cutting moment!

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